Now that the semester is pretty much over for all of us college kids, I really wanted to share some things I learned this semester. Honestly, this semester was hard on me. I had a lot going on. We had just founded our sorority chapter, I was taking the first of my upper division classes for my major and finishing up my minor, and was working roughly 16 hours a week; just to name a few of the things going on in my life. There were so many blessings in the first part of 2017, don’t get me wrong, but when spring break had come and gone I knew I had spread myself too thin this semester. So here’s what I learned as I was spread too thin…
Take care of yourself.
I think it’s easy to forget about your own well being when you have a lot of different things on our plate and you have other people relying on you. This semester has really taught me that your ineffective if you’re unhealthy. You can pour out if you’re empty. Take a brain break. Take a moment for yourself. Paint your nails or do whatever makes you feel good and pretty. Fiercely love yourself so that you are able to love others.
It’s ok to not do it all.
As I finished high school I really had the mindset that I was able to do all these things and be that awesome person who does everything. I ended up commuting that mindset into college, even though I didn’t like to admit it. I ended up taking on a lot of different things and filled my brain with a ton of different things. I finally realize that it’s more than ok to not do it all because no one can do it all. I heard a saying once that went like this “you can do anything, but you can’t do everything.” This is something I learned to be true this semester and I hope my experience teaches others about this as well.
Time to be still is important.
I am some who fears silence and stillness, even to this day. It feels like I’ being unproductive or leaving room for something bad to happen, something I wouldn’t be able to handle. However, this past semester has shown me how important it is to be still every once and awhile. It’s something I’m still working on, but I’ve learned that we’ll wear ourselves down to nothing if we don’t take the time to be still. I came close to that recently and I know what it feels like to feel beaten down when you should be having the time of your life. Slow down and be still.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the negatives when you have a ton going on. It’s so easy to focus on the things that aren’t going right or the stuff you aren’t successful at. It’s so easy to forget about all the good things going on in your life. It’s so easy to forget about the things you’re doing right. That is why you have to stay grateful. You have to remember what you’ve been blessed with. This is something I epically struggle with. I’m someone who quickly hones in on the negatives and will stay there for as long as I let myself. I often let myself overlook at the good because I’m spending too much on the bad. However, finding something to be grateful for can easily flip your mood. Something I try to do is keep a gratitude journal and write down three things from the day that I can be grateful for.
To be truly honest with y’all, I’m still working on implementing these lessons. I’m not perfect at the things I’ve learned this semester and it’s going to take some time for me. So, if you need work in any of these things, don’t feel bad and don’t beat yourself up. It’s normal as young adults to have a hard time with this kind of stuff. Know you’re not alone and know that you are capable.
Faith is one of the social media editors and content writer for Tribe Twenty One. She’s a sophomore University of North Carolina at Charolette,majoring in Special Education and minoring in Sociology. She is a sister of Sigma Alpha Omega, and has a true passion for helping other girls in college and connecting on social media.