When I originally tried to write this post a few days ago, it felt uncomfortable, like a farce. You want to know how to be authentic? Be bold. Be strong. Be confident. It really is that easy.
It’s a cover up.
Social media today creates this universe where it’s impossible to know what’s real, because it’s so simple to put on an act. You edit your pictures beyond recognition. You only post about the happiest parts of your day. That’s why celebrities come across as so relatable, they’re doing the exact same things you are! And none of that is real. Real isn’t always pretty or nice or happy. But it is authentic.
If it’s real, why is it so hard?
There’s a huge sense of vulnerability in putting yourself out there. It’s uncomfortable. That’s where the Photoshop and smiley emojis come in. Those are easy. Unfortunately, there’s this misconception that finding your authentic self is some lengthy, difficult, soul searching process. But really it’s as simple as waking up in the morning and making a choice.
You have to choose who you want to be, who you want to hang out with, and how you want the world to see you. Are you happy with your job, partner, friends, etc.? No? Then it’s time for some tough choices.
It’s all about you.
Think of yourself for a little bit. Hard, I know. Think about where you want to be tomorrow, next week, or maybe even a year from now. Is your current situation leading you in that direction? If it is, fantastic! Throw on a kick-butt outfit and walk out that door. If it’s not, you’re going to need to spend a little more time here. And I’m right here with you.
What is it you want tomorrow, next week, or next year? Write it down, in good ol’ pen and paper. Stick it somewhere you’ll see it every single day. Maybe your bathroom mirror or by your front door.
I’ve never been the outgoing type. I’ve never been one to do anything other than what I’ve been told. My first step forward is putting myself out there. As someone who is unbelievably independent you’d this would come naturally, but I have a long way to go. And that’s okay. I’m ready to work on it.
Make it happen!
Here’s the hard part, you need to start taking some action.
Don’t like your job? Start looking for something that’ll get you closer to that dream (*side note – it’s very important you find something BEFORE you leave that dead-end job that is currently paying all your bills). Don’t like you boyfriend? Learn to be on your own for a bit. Don’t like where you’re living? Find somewhere you can afford with that new job.
The possibilities for your life are endless where you make the choice to be true to who you are. Being authentic isn’t some convoluted 12-step program. It’s a shame that it sometimes sounds that way. It’s nothing more than daring to live your biggest and boldest life.
Let me know a few of those “authentically you” goals you have or send me a picture of your list, I’d love to see them!
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