So you’ve done it. You’ve eaten your weight in turkey, shopped your heart out on Black Friday, and have successfully made it back to school! First of all, Congratulations! The holidays are here and you’re well on your way to a wonderful Holiday Season.

So now you’re back at school, you have a few weeks until heading home for Winter Break and you’re now wondering how the heck you’re going to make it through to Finals.

Don’t worry! We’ve all been there. This is a time all students go through. It’s the time after a restful break at home and the only thing tying you down before an ever longer holiday break. Although this may not be the most comfortable place to be, it’s still something you’ve gotta push through.

And since it is College, you’ve got to end the year strong!

Here are some ways you can push through this study slump and finish the semester strong!

1. Plan out your time. Without a doubt, planning your time does wonders for making sure you get things done and in manageable-not-so-overwhelming chunks. Write down the date of your final test or project in your planner and begin to backtrack. Write down what you need to do each night in order to feel confident by the time the Finals roll around. Let’s say you have a final two weeks out and you know you need to study a variety of different parts of the material covered this semester. In order to achieve all that studying, work on Unit 1 for two days, Unit 2 for another two days, etc., that way by the time the Final rolls around you have prepared yourself as well as you could. The biggest tip with planning out your time is to break your time into parts you know you can accomplish.

2. Find a study buddy. Find someone else and study together. Sometimes you really do need someone who shares your frustration of studying and to know you’re not alone. Plus a study buddy can help you review materials for the final. 

3. Plan fun things to do. Don’t worry about studying constantly, but rather find something fun to do to break up your studying! Go see a movie, bowl, eat a nice dinner. Choose something as a reward for your studying. Plan it out so your reward can happen after a productive study session is complete. Planning out something fun always kept me excited to study because I knew there was something enjoyable waiting for me when I was done.

4. Don’t worry about what you haven’t done so far this semester. Just keep working to get done what you need to get done. Find a tutor to clear up any questions or, if possible, go and ask a professor for help. If you keep looking at mistakes in your courses from this semester you may get caught up in how you aren’t feeling so great about some classes. Do the best you can and that’s the best you can do. It’s always better to have a positive attitude as you move forward in to finals.

5. Take care of yourself. No matter how far you may be behind, try to put yourself first. This means prioritizing time to sleep, stay active and study. Finding a balance to help your brain rest can leave you feeling refreshed and ready to go! Eat healthy meals and try not to snack on too much sugar so you don’t crash later on. When you get a chance, go for a walk or work out. Spending time active actually leaves you more energized than before, and helps your brain to retain more information.

6. Surround yourself with positivity. This may sound corny, but how many times have you gone to see a movie with a motivational plot? You probably walked out of the theater feeling empowered. The same holds true to studying. Listen to a podcast, watch a motivational speaker video or spend time with friends who will keep you positive. A little dose of positivity can go a long way.

The time preparing for Finals can be frustrating, but hopefully these tips can help you feel better about it! You’ve only got a few weeks to go before your long holiday break arrives, and you’ve already survived the first part of your semester! You’ve got this! And when your Finals are said and done, all the prep leading up to it will all have been well worth it. Keep going!!

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Happy Saturday y’all! I know we don’t typically post on the weekend but it’s a special occasion. We just wrapped up our first giveaway yesterday and now have our two winners! 

First we want to thank everyone who entered and who has supported us. You guys mean the world to us and we couldn’t have done it without you. So thank you from the bottom of our hearts! 

Now on to the moment you’ve all been waiting for! 

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The winners are Sara for the grand prize and Illian for the second prize! Congrats to the both of you! Please check your emails for details on how to claim your prize. 

Again thank you to everyone who entered, we wish we could give everyone a prize because you guys are the best! 

And thank you to our awesome sponsors Mint Julep Boutique, Ashley Brooke Designs, Pinch Provisions, Thimblepress and Mint Pop Shop for the adorably cute items!

We hope everyone has a great weekend and we will see you next week! 

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“When are you bringing home a boyfriend?”
“But you’re so cute, how can you be single?”
“I can hook you up with one of my boyfriend’s friends.”
“Have you tried any dating websites?”

If you are anything like me, you have heard these phrases (probably many others) repeated to you constantly from friends and family. But have no fear: you are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. I have been single for the 19 (going on 20) years of my existence.

But, just because you are single now, doesn’t mean you are going to stay that way. With these next few holidays coming up, however, it might be a little more difficult to deal with your singleness. All of the cute mushy Christmas movies (which I honestly love) are going to be playing and pulling on our sad, single heartstrings. I have some help for you, with my many years of experience, to help these holidays in the single life go a little smoother.

1. Treat yourself.
You don’t have a significant other to buy anything for, so why not buy yourself a little something extra. Whether it be something you’ve been wanting for ages or desert when you go out to eat, treat yourself to whatever your sweet little heart desires, you deserve it.

2. Have a party with your girlfriends.
They may or may not be single, but just have a girl’s day to celebrate the upcoming holidays. This way, you can eat as much junk as you want, watch all the sappy Christmas movies that you would’ve watched alone, and enjoy some laughs before heading off to spend time with your family. For me, I know that nothing lifts my spirits like being surrounded by the people that make my days a little less glum.

3. Take a drive and enjoy the view.
One of my favorite parts about the upcoming holidays is the decorations. I love going out at night and looking at all the beautiful lights strung up and trees in people’s windows (a little creepy—I know). Crank up that holiday music and get into the spirit. It’s just something simple and relaxing, you need some time for yourself.

4. Eat all of the food.
Okay, well maybe not all of it, but eat as much as you can handle. All of the Thanksgiving turkey or Christmas ham, it doesn’t matter what you eat, or how much, there is no one there that you are trying to look good for. You can be totally relaxed with the fam without worrying about including a significant other, or trying to make yourself look like a decent human by eating only a little. EAT IT ALL.

5. No attempt to impress.
What’s worse than trying to impress your significant other in front of your own family? Trying to impress his. You don’t have to worry about those awkward first meetings at the holidays, and having to basically give your life story to every single random aunt or cousin that comes your way. Meeting the family is stressful, especially over the holidays. But guess what? You’re free, stay in your pajamas all month if you want.

6. Own it.
Going to spend time with family over Thanksgiving and Christmas without a significant other can be a little stressful. But you’ve got this. I have an uncle who never fails to hit my sister and me with a “when are you getting married,” and I just can’t help but roll my eyes. If you get this thrown at you as well, just accept it. Be confident in the strong independent individual you are.

They holidays should be a time of joy. Don’t let your current relationship status keep you from enjoying it. There is nothing wrong with you as a person if you are living the single life, and you shouldn’t have to feel ashamed—so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 

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Happy Monday everyone! Today we are SO excited because we are hosting a giveaway! Yup you read that right, we are giving away a ton of cute stuff to our awesome readers! It’s in honor of launching and being blown away by the support and response from you guys, because we could all use some happiness right about now and who doesn’t winning cute things? 😉

There are two goodie bundles that we are giving away thanks to our awesome sponsors! Samantha reached out to various brands, before we had even launched our blog, and was again, blown away at how many wanted to partner with us to host this giveaway. We knew we wanted to work with brands who had a similar mission and message to Tribe 21 of empowering, encouraging and inspiring and that are just awesome companies that have high quality items. 

We thought we’d be doing good if we had one brand want to donate but we never could have guessed that FIVE would want to! So a massive thank you times a bajillion to our amazing sponsors.  Make sure you check them out and follow them on social media too, they’re pretty great! 

Mint Julep Boutique Facebook  |  Instagram | Twitter

Ashley Brooke Designs Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

Mint Pop Shop Facebook Instagram | Twitter

Pinch Provisions Facebook Instagram | Twitter

Thimblepress Facebook Instagram | Twitter 

Okay now on to what you’ve all been waiting for! 

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Mint Julep Boutique ‘Slouchy Dolman’ tunic top | Mint Pop Shop ‘Shine Bright’ notebook | Glitter makeup pouch | Ashley Brooke Designs ‘Go Big or Go Home’ tumbler | Pinch Provisions ‘Minimergency kit’ | Thimblepress ‘Kindness cards’ | Pencils 

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The grand prize winner will win one Mint Julep Boutique ‘Slouchy dolman’ tunic top in ‘Wine’ (not pictured) which is the prettiest color for fall/winter, one Mint Pop Shop ‘Shine Bright’ notebook perfect for school or your office, one glitter makeup pouch for holding all your beauty needs, one Ashley Brooke Designs ‘Go Big or Go Home’ tumbler to hold your favorite iced coffee, water, tea, juice or soda, one Pinch Provisions ‘Minimergency kits’ perfect for your backpack, purse, travel bag, locker, office or car, a section of Thimblepress ‘Kindness cards’ with cute reminders and graphics that you got this and lastly, a pack of pencils for your notebook. This goodie bundle values at over $100! 

AND Mint Julep was kind enough to offer a promo code to all Tribe 21 followers/readers for 50% off their entire Slouchy Dolman tunic tops! Yup so you can get your own in any one of their super cute colors!

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Mint Pop Shop ‘Tasssel scarf in Mocha’ | Pencils | Ashley Brooke Designs ‘All the Secrets notebook’ | Pinch Provisions ‘Minimergency kit’ | ‘Don’t quit your daydream’ wall art | Thimblepress ‘Kindness cards’

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Our second winner will receive one Mint Pop Shop ‘Tassel scarf in Mocha’ the perfect accessory, one Ashley Brooke Designs ‘All the Secrets notebook’ to use for school or your office, one Pinch Provisions ‘Minimergency kits’ perfect for on the go emergencies, one ‘Don’t quit your daydream’ wall art to remind you to keep fighting for your dreams, a pack of pencils for jotting down your dreams and a section of Thimblepress ‘Kindness cards’ to remind yourself or give to those who could use some kindness. This goodie bundle is valued at over $70!

                                                        

So how do you enter to win these goodie bundles? Glad you asked! All you have to do is enter using the Viral Sweep link because WordPress is stupid and won’t let you put in the Rafflecopter widgets… 

There are 15 entries (ignore that it says 10) meaning there are 15 ways you can enter to win, the first 8 are mandatory to “unlock” the others. The other 7 will be additional and will only be counted if we see you have completed the 8 other entries. The 7 aren’t required but up your chances of winning. So you can fill out just 1 or you can fill out all 15 for a better chance to win. We will also be having an extra entry via Instagram so make sure to follow us there to get that freebie! Samantha will enter in all of the entries and number them then use a random number generator to draw the two winners.

There are some rules to the giveaway:
1) You have to be at least 13 years of age or older
2) You must have a valid email address/Facebook account
3) No international entries, sorry 😦 

There will be only one email address/Facebook account per entry, any more will result in disqualification and we don’t wanna do that so please just enter once! 

The giveaway will from today, Monday November 14th till Friday, November 18th at 11:59PM CST. The winner will be contacted by us via email on Saturday and announced on Saturday in a blog post as well as on Instagram, @tribe21_. 

Since the giveaway widget doesn’t allow for submitting your social media handles so we can verify you really followed us/the sponsors, please don’t say you followed if you didn’t, use the honor system 🙂  

Thank you to Mint Julep Boutique, Ashley Brooke Designs, Thimblepress, Mint Pop Shop and Pinch Provisions for all of the adorably cute items in this giveaway and for wanting to donate them in the first place. We were blown away at the response and can’t thank you enough! These items were gifted to Tribe 21 for free, all opinions are our own and are in no way, shape or form influenced by the brands mentioned nor are we making any commission off of them. 
And THANK YOU to all of our followers who believed in Tribe 21 and our message and mission and who supported us even before we started writing content. This is all for you and thanks to you. We couldn’t have done it without you! 

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Because contrary to popular belief, not all millennials living in their parent’s basements are content to be there forever.

1. Transitioning from Collegiate Life to Real Life Can Be Hard
Two of my favorite things about college were having a consistent schedule and living with and near all of my friends.  Sure, some semesters that schedule started at 8 a.m. and ended somewhere around 1 a.m. the next morning, but it was consistent. This sometimes wild form of consistency was made easier by the fact that I lived with 3 of my best friends. The beautiful thing about college is that it gives you some real adult life experience, while still allowing you to stay up late eating pizza and drinking cheap wine.

Then you graduate, and you move to different places. The consistency you once had is replaced with endless daily quasi-chaos. You spend your days applying for jobs, starting a new job, or finding different ways to fill the time in your day not committed to filling out job applications. No matter which direction your life goes, you don’t experience the same kind of consistency you did in college, and that can be hard to get used to.

Beyond that, many times your friends end up in different places. All of my roommates live in different states than I do now. I moved back to my parents’ house, back to my bedroom, which just so happens to be in the basement.  Hence, I began my life as a proud college graduate in my parents’ basement in my small hometown in Wisconsin. Population: 2,856, median age: 52.7, closest movie theater: roughly 30 minutes. If you need to buy clothes, you drive a good hour; unless you want to get them at Wal-Mart, which is only a half an hour. It’s safe to say this was a change of pace for me. After four years immersed in a culture of people in my age group, I moved to a place where the only ones in my age group are a few people I went to high school with who never left. It can be hard to be so isolated, especially in a time of change.

But just because change is hard doesn’t mean it’s bad. You just need to find ways or reasons to love the situation you’re in. I love my life now because my 16 year-old brother is there. He plays 3 varsity sports at our high school, and I get to watch every game. More than that, after being gone for four years of college, I missed a lot of his life and he’s turned into a pretty cool kid. Sure, I still miss having a consistent life, and I definitely miss having my friends around, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find the best in the changes life throws your way.

2. Finding a “Big Girl Job” Can Be Hard, Too
Job hunting (for a lot of people) is hard. In my experience it’s been made more difficult by the fact that I’m looking for a teaching job. Some jobs you can find year round, teaching jobs are really only open from about April to August. If you don’t get one then, you’ll more than likely have to wait until the next year to look for a full time job. Even if you aren’t a teacher, however, it can take a while to find somewhere to work. Filling out an application is hard, and interviewing can be harder. After submitting multiple applications without getting an interview, it can feel like you’ll never be good enough or that there’s something magically wrong with you that makes no one want to hire you. But eventually, your curse will break. And some employer, somewhere will call you for an interview. Here’s your shot.

I’ve decided there are very few things in the world as weird as the minutes right after an interview. You put yourself on the line trying to get a group of strangers to like you and then you leave knowing that the group of strangers is talking about whether or not they like you. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t; but you can’t take it personally. Employers are looking for more than just your qualification. Sometimes they look for experience, and sometimes they’re just waiting to find someone with that je ne sais quoi.  When the right job comes along, you’ll get it. I’ve never experienced such a test, and growth, in patience as I have experienced job hunting.

3. You Won’t Have it All Together, and that’s O.K.
My life is nowhere close to “together.” Sometimes that really stresses me out, but I’m learning to accept it. Transitioning from college to real life collides with job hunting and the result is this mass anarchical chaos that feels a little smothering sometimes. Especially when I look at some of my friends who are married and have kids and steady jobs and their own places to live. But they don’t have it all together either. I’m firmly convinced that you can never truly get it all together, you just work hard to get as much as you can in place and minimize the mess with the rest.

That’s not to say the chaos is always smothering, or that at times you won’t be perfectly happy with the ratio of chaos to calm in your life. As much as I believe no one really gets it all together, I believe even more in loving the life you have and finding the best in it. There are some things in life you just can’t control. Your attitude and effort are always within your power to change. If you want to, you will always be able to find something wrong or something to complain about. But you’ll also always be able to find something right or something to enjoy. The choice is yours. You may not have everything together right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t learn to love it.

What are some things you have learned in post-grad life? Share in the comments below! 

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If I’m being honest, one of my biggest fears when going to college was that I wouldn’t make any friends. I think this is normal for all college students, but my fear seemed to be inflated. I was planning on living at home and commuting to college and still wasn’t sure I’d made the right decision. I feared I’d be isolated.

Throughout school I always struggled to find friends that I could really lean on and trust. I’d always have people to talk to during class, but there were only a few people I spent time with outside of school and really talked to more than regular chit chat and sharing information about class assignments. Which was fine for that time in my life, but as high school ended I felt a deep desire for real community. So when I got to college, I wanted to find those girls I could really trust and care for. But I was completely terrified that I never would find them.

But now I’m almost halfway through my sophomore year of school, and I can say that I’ve found those girls. I’ve found good friends that I trust, that I can lean on, that I can talk to, and can count on to encourage me. I’ve found these girls in many different circles too, from clubs, to classes, and even freshman orientation. Through finding these girls, I’ve found that the people you surround yourself with (your tribe) is so very important.

Your tribe is important because you begin to act like them.
It’s true when they say that you begin to act like the people you’re around the most, so it’s important that you surround yourself with those whose values match your values and whose heart matches your heart. It’s important to surround yourself  with “goal diggers” and those that encourage you to go after your own goals too. I think it would be such a shame to wake up in the middle of this crazy life and realize you’ve become someone you hoped you never would  just because you didn’t surround yourself with the right people.

Your tribe is important because you deserve to be treated right.
It’s also true that you need to surround yourself with the people who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. They should value you. They should love you. They should lift you up. They should encourage you. They should make you laugh. They should push you to achieve your goals. They should be people you can talk to even when what you have to say isn’t positive, even when you just need to complain.
People who do anything less shouldn’t make it into your tribe or your heart. It would be a shame for anyone to be treated anything less that what they absolutely deserve by those they are closest to. (But let’s not forget that to have good people in our tribe, we have to treat those inside like they deserve to be treated as well.)

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I know what it’s like to need a strong community around you and I know what it’s like to when your around the wrong people. I know how important my tribe is. Your tribe can make you feel drained and unappreciated if you don’t pick them wisely. However, if you pick who your tribe is carefully, if you really pay attention to who you let it, they can be a major part of success and happiness in your life. They can push you to do things you wouldn’t imagine and get you through times you never thought you’d be able to endure.

So to those still trying to find your tribe and fear you never will, please don’t worry. You’ll find them. They’re out there. There are beautiful people out there who are perfect for your tribe. But never forget how important who you let into your tribe really is. You will begin to act like them and you do deserve the best. Don’t forget- you don’t have to let just anyone in!

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Alternately titled, “You learn a lot about yourself and relationships after a long-term five year relationship ends. Pretty sure that Shonda Rimes could create a show on this.”

You are probably asking yourself these important questions right now:

You are probably thinking why am I just know doing this? Why would I want you to thank you after the fact? What possible good thing could come from this?

Well, I don’t have an important answer or even an answer at all. Is it for closure? I mean, that’s very possible. Or for the simple fact that even if you haven’t been in a five year relationship, at some point you know what I’m about to be talking about.  Sometimes it doesn’t take a five year relationship for you to realize these things. Sometimes it only takes a couple of months.

Thank you:

For completely and truly destroying me:

This probably sounds silly as to why I would thank you for putting me through possibly the worse couple of years of my life. It wasn’t just you that was destroying me; I was also destroying myself. I let myself become this weak, fragile, and a dependent person for the first time in my life. If it wasn’t for you breaking my heart not once, but multiple times over the course of five years. I wouldn’t have realized who I am, or how strong I am. I was at my worst and I’ve bounced back stronger than ever.

For making me realize just how stubborn I really am:

Some things I already knew and this was one of them, but you made me realize how stubborn I really am. I never back down from argument. (That might be the reason I’m considering law school.)  I always believe that I’m right, even when I know I’m wrong. I hate apologizing but I’m always the first one to do so, which makes me just as stubborn as never backing down. Even if I knew I wasn’t at fault, I still apologize. Maybe it was my stubbornness that caused so many fights or maybe you just couldn’t handle it.

For making me realize I need someone who will stand by my side and let me chase my dreams:

I’ve always been someone to support anyone of what they want to do. I realized that I need someone who will do the same for me. Someone who will tell me to go after my dream job, even if it’s in Seattle or somewhere else. Not someone who is going to make me pick them or my dream job, but someone who stand beside me and support me. I’d do the same for them, and I would expect the same from them.

For making me realize that I want someone as weird as me:

On a scale of 1 to 10 on the weirdness level, I’m a solid 2 until you get to know me. Then I’m at a good 20 on the scale. I obsess over television shows and characters. I do things that make people question if I’m normal, and sometimes I don’t make sense. I make terrible puns and bad jokes. Half the time I can’t speak in complete sentences. I geek out over random stuff. I need someone who isn’t going to judge me over crying television show or make fun of me cause I’m geeking out over something minor. Nah, give me someone who is just as weird as me.

Allowing me to walk away with my head held high:

This is something that I wasn’t sure I could do. I felt defeated, and I knew I was defeated, but at the same time I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Walking away from something that you love is never easy. I knew this when I made the decision to walk away, but you didn’t realize I was walking away with my head held high. It was in that moment that I knew I deserved better than what I was getting. It might have taken me a bit to figure it out, but walking away was the best thing I could do for me and for you.

Thank you for everything listed above and making me realize that I was about to settle for something that I did not need.

In the words of Little Mix, “Shout out to my ex, you’re really quite the man. You made my heart break and that made me who I am.”

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‘Class is canceled’ those are some of the best words a college student could hear. After waking up early to get to that early class, sitting in traffic for an hour and rushing around on the borderline of sleep deprived and on time getting to class to see the note on the door that says the class is canceled is one of the worst sights to see.
On top of all of that when you have a class later in the day which would make going home seem foolish then you’re stuck at school. I have found myself in this predicament multiple times this semester, I have found some alternatives when class in canceled which included where to go, but also things to do in the new-found free time:

1. Go to the library and get to work. In college, there’s almost always something that you can be working on whether it’s catching up on some assignments or catching up on some Netflix. The library is a great place to go to get it done.

2. Go to the coffee shop in your area. There has to be somewhere whether it is on campus or around the campus that you can go to decompress. Sometimes for me, the library is too quiet that I get distracted easier, so sometimes going somewhere else that has more going on is better for me to focus.

3. Go take care of business. This is so important and sometimes overlooked during a regular day. Go somewhere to you can talk on the phone and make phone calls to take care of things. It can be something about your financial aid, work related or just a general curiosity that needs to be addressed.

Using your time wisely is so important. In the chaos of a regular day, it is so easy to forget to take care of business.  Although it sucks driving all the way to class just to find out it was canceled take advantage of the time there, make the trip worth it!

What do you do when class is cancelled? Share in the comments below!

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